Warning Signs
Red Flags / Warning Signs that Someone may be Abusive:
Please note: this list is not all inclusive
- Wants to know where you all the time
- Constantly texting/calling
- Overly jealous, accusing you of having affairs, possessive of you
- Minimizes your feelings and concerns
- Your opinion is not “considered” or doesn’t appear to be valued, undermines you
- Wants the relationship to move quickly
- Doesn’t respect your boundaries
- Doesn’t see he/she is doing anything wrong with how they treat you
- Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde: shows “one side” one side to other people and shows a different one to you
- Limits your time with your friends & family, won’t let you see your friends & family
- Doesn’t take responsibility for his/her choices, blames others for what he/she does
- History of being abusive in the past
- Unrealistic expectations, unreasonable demands
- Tells you that you are “crazy”, “stupid” or other names
- Criticizes how you look, says no one else would want you
- Disrespectful towards women; attitude, beliefs, comments, jokes…
- Manipulative
- Entitlement, feels he/she is “owed” it, deserves it…
- “Punishes” you, threatens you, acts on the threats
- Tries to say what you can wear, do, go…
- He/she is abusive towards children, including emotional
- He/she is overly sensitive, gets upset over normal life situations, feels ‘injustices’ by many
- Do you have your own ‘personal space’, able to have time to yourself, or does he/she go through your mail, things, always needs to be around you…
