Domestic Violence – Get the Facts
What is Domestic Violence?
When an individual establishes and maintains power and control over their intimate partner.
Examples of Intimate Partner: (but not limited to)
- Ex-gf/bf, ex- bf/bf…
- Child in common
Forms of Abuse
Physical Abuse may include: (not limited to these)
Slapping, hitting, punching
Using or threatening to use weapons
Throwing things, destroying your things
Hurting/killing your pets
Following you, showing up unannounced, repeatedly calling/texting
Not letting you go to the doctor
Sexual Abuse may include: (not limited to these)
Making you have sex when you don’t want to
Scared to tell you partner no
Forcing you to do sexual act that are degrading
Uses violence against you during sex
Denying you birth control/contraception
Financial Abuse may include: (not limited to these)
Giving you an “allowance”
Forcing you to hand over the money you earn
Opening accounts in your name
Hiding money from you
Not letting you work if you want to
Emotional Abuse may include : (but not limited to these)
Calling you names
Minimizing the abuse
Isolating/keeping you from your family and friends
Blaming you for what they do
Accusing you of having affairs
Putting you down
Who are the victims of domestic violence?
Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. It happens to every race/ethnicity, every age, and whether you are male or female. Domestic violence crosses every sector of life; it doesn’t discern from economic factors, employment status or religious preference.
Bottom line: It can happen to anyone!
Who are the abusers?
Just as anyone can be a victim, anyone can be an abuser. Being employed or unemployed does not dictate whether someone is abusive or not. Whether a person is over a certain age, from a specific ethnicity, or goes to a certain church does not mean that person is abusive. Anyone can be abusive.
What causes someone to be abusive?
Nothing! Many times, an abusive person will blame others or events as a “cause” for the abuse he/she chooses to use.
Being abusive is not cause by depression, anxiety or any other mental illness. Drugs, alcohol or being raised in an abusive environment will not cause someone to be abusive. It is not caused by someone lacking employment or education either.
Being abusive, using power and control over one’s intimate partner is a CHOICE! That person is making a conscious decision to abuse their intimate partner
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